Traditions seem to have been discarded in today’s world. Pseudo-rituals have become the fad. Going to some restaurant or theme park. Having a gathering of some sort randomly. I don’t know what all folks are doing these days out there.
Traditions such as large family gatherings of grandparents, parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins and some family friends added in seems to have gone by the wayside. I wonder why. It can’t be due to traveling distances. Highways and vehicles make even long trips easy. Not to mention air travel availability. Houses are larger. Food comes in forms easier to prepare and serve.
Why are we so tired of it all? Why did we do it to begin with? Once upon a time, it was high entertainment. It was a way to connect and socialize and be part of something. The year was punctuated by feasts and festivals. Christmas was only one of many events celebrated with gatherings of people for feasts, contests, dramatic productions, pageants, and parades. Time was marked by holidays and celebrations.
Entertainment is now so overabundant and cheap, we seem to no longer need a way to mark the passing of time. Social media, satellite television, cellular phones with internet service. Movies and restaurants by the dozens. Sporting and music events. That just touches the surface of options to fill our time and expend our energy. There is so much to do, we try to do it all. Suddenly, another year has passed. Suddenly, we realize it has been more than a decade and a half since we have seen people we grew up loving and spending time with.
One of my intentions for this year was to have lunch with a friend each month. I did January’s lunch. February’s I did not. March is quickly coming to a close. However, I will give myself credit for stopping to see a friend. One of my best friends. She was at work, so it was just hugs and a quick so great to see you, how are the kids, kind of moment. But, it was still a precious moment in time.
So, what else do I want? I am not sure. I am not sure if trying to reconstruct the old ways is correct or feasible. But, surely, we could come up with more solid structure for connections than what we have now. It is really up to me to make the effort to create a space in time for the next generation to have connection with family and close friends.
I had a lovely few hours with my niece and my two wonderful great nieces this past weekend. Perhaps they are what sent me off on this train of thought.
In this outrageously disconnected world we live in, I want them to have connection. I want them to feel as though they belong to a larger group of loving individuals. Bound by love and tradition and ritual. Secure in the knowledge that there is always a safe place in this world when all seems to be spinning out of control. Their parents provide this certainly. But, the extension of the family group makes a difference when the storms come and when the joys come, too.
More than dishes.
Colored glass shapes for holding celebrations.
Holding foods for celebrations.
Holding memories of celebrations.
Holding hope of future celebrations.
Holding promises of memories yet to be celebrated.