Some Mondays, I have trouble getting going writing. Like tonight. I think tonight has been the worst so far.
So what shall I write about? I have had to make a change to improve my health. It is a change in more than my diet. I am a coffee lover. I drink copious amounts of coffee each day. I buy decaf coffee so I can drink coffee late in the day if I want. It was killing my stomach.
Last Monday, I stopped drinking all day coffee. I have had about eight ounces of coffee each morning. But, it is a lifestyle change and a change of habit and a detox from caffeine. I have been drinking water all day now. My stomach was better the same day I stopped drinking all that coffee.
Till today……I cooked spaghetti for his supper. I ate some as well. There went my stomach again. I don’t really like spaghetti all that much, so I doubt I will miss it. But, I am not certain if it was the tomatoes, the Italian sausage or what that upset my tummy.
Nevertheless, I was aggravated about it. I had been enjoying not having all those problems this past week.
What else do I need to give up to improve my well-being? Self-criticism. I abuse myself the way I talk to myself. That voice in my head is vicious. But, I have been getting that under control, too. That shift I mentioned last week would certainly include a gentler observer voice in my mind.
I have continued to retrain my thoughts to be compassionate with my own self. I write it all out in my journal. I identify a thought or thought process and write the sequence. Then, I rewrite it like a friend talking to me. Advising me on what is true and what is assumed. Digging into the cause of the thought, rewriting scripts to give a positive outcome. I am not really sure how to describe the method. Positive imagining. Whatever it is, it has allowed me to put many dragons to death and get many more chained up.
My dragons range in size and color. Things from indecision, over-sentimentality, laziness, to severe depression and a deep sense of unworthiness, and survivor’s guilt. I am getting better able to battle them. Writing Raining Orchids is good medicine.
His letting me go to the deer stand and sit is also good medicine. Sitting in those woods, hours of solitude, pen and paper in hand. I appreciate getting to spend time in that part of his world. I appreciate his spending time, money and energy to get me in a warm, dry spot to wait and listen. I appreciate his patience with my efforts at becoming a hunter and fisherwoman. I appreciate him.