I have noticed a change. I am sure it has been occurring more and more in recent years. But, I realized it this morning.
As is common with children as they become teenagers and young adults learning to use their wings, mine would sometimes respond to unsolicited advice with a less than positive attitude. “Mom, I’ve got this.”
I had the privilege of spending time with our daughter at her first full dress rehearsal as a theater teacher. She had the parents of the middle schoolers attend. I spent time doing make up, encouraging quiet backstage, helping actors get to various places. Afterward, as we were driving home, she and I chatted on the phone. I suggested some things and she happily agreed.
Then, again this morning, I suggested another idea and she readily agreed. I have a similar response from our son these days. When I suggest some option to his situation, he doesn’t put me off. He actually welcomes my input. Whether they take my advice or not is irrelevant. I just appreciate the chance to be part of their lives in a new dimension.
I remember when they were the ages of my great nieces. At five, it’s just about playing and having fun. At 20 months, it is just about playing and being cuddled. I love being able to watch the older one change from toddler to girl and the younger from baby to toddler. But, each changing stage is poignant. Reminding me of time racing and lives changing. Please slow down just for a minute or two each day old world. My love is still pouring out for that little one of yesterday.
My mind goes back to a teenage boy I once knew. He was new to town and his amber eyes melted my heart. He was strong and stubborn. Stronger and more stubborn than me. Yet, his love for me was tender and passionate. There is a man’s man in his place now. Still strong and stubborn. Gentler and more patient than the middle days. Nevertheless, he is not a bear I want to cross. I am still amazed at how much he loves me.
Our life together is the best part of me. I told someone recently, my life mainly consists of my 9 to 5, a little housework, going to church and tagging along after him. Tagging along is the best part of my life. I love to tag along with him and with our children. You should see the path of orchid petals they leave behind for me to enjoy!