Sometimes I have clarity. I clearly see my dream. Then I look down to check the path for trip hazards and when I look back up, the dream has become shrouded again.
I will continue to seek the path to my dream. To do otherwise is self-betrayal. To be true to myself. That is a big part of it. To know myself and not compromise my own identity and values to conform or get by.
It is very hard for me. My personality is to be pliant and submissive. I laugh as I write that. I haven’t always been such. I used to argue at the drop of a hat with anyone about anything.
In trying to become the kind of wife I want to be, I have given up some things I shouldn’t have let go. He doesn’t press for anything. It has been my own quest to change and become the partner I believe he deserves. But, in doing so, I have retreated too far with some things.
I don’t reach for things if I am not able to get them on my own. If I will need help, I usually simply forfeit. I short myself when I should be letting him and others close enough to help. I may have just hit upon the key.
Letting someone help means being vulnerable. I have too often equated vulnerability with weakness. I don’t think of that with others, just with myself. I measure myself with a totally different set of standards. I love to help others. I don’t allow myself to need help.
Perhaps for 2016, I will let go of my self-imposed restrictions and allow myself to ask for help. Ask for support. Let others love me.
It is the only way to fulfill my dreams. I will not be able to do what I want to do without his support and his help. He always encourages me to take the next step. I am the one standing on the same step day after day.
That is not entirely true. If I look back, I see how far I have come. And I do see the next step. Just muster the wherewithal to climb up one more. After I get that one done, I can work on the next. One step. And another after that. The dream is there, up ahead.
I am enjoying the challenge of the climb. That ever ascending path. That shrouded dream. The faith to keep on the chase. A good way to live. Seeking the dream and yet not losing the joy of the pursuit. A delicate balance. Like the blossom of the orchid.