I have heard a couple of songs on the radio recently. One is a current hit. One is from several years ago. The one from several years ago is about a woman questioning what she is doing with her life. I struggled with that for years. Why didn’t I finish college? What career path should I have taken?
I married early and had children. I had ill parents to tend. By the time, real opportunity came along for me to pursue something else, I didn’t have the resources to move on it. Resources aren’t just money. Time, energy, desire.
Perhaps it is the approach of middle age. Perhaps is it the imminent arrival of granddaughter number one and the fast approaching granddaughter number two. I am losing the sense of loss over missed opportunities.
The current song just made me recall my original dream. I don’t even know what about the song made me think what I did. All I ever wanted was to be a wife, mother and homemaker. I did all that along with a 9-5. My husband is my career and the 9-5 is a sideline.
I wouldn’t give myself a very good evaluation for my career performance right now. I have been sidetracked. I have this terrible weakness of allowing media-books, magazines, Pinterest-influence my decisions too greatly. I let the profit driven mass production world of commerce deceive me into thinking I am not in line with what is acceptable modern living. The problem develops because I cannot keep up with their standards and actually provide an appropriate lifestyle or living conditions for our real life household.
I am changing that already. I have made some decisions and some behavioral changes. I am having success with them. I feel better about a lot of things. My self-evaluation is having a positive effect of change.
Just be happy. He and his son have told me that. I am glad that line is sticking in my mind rather than the old one from a corny old movie. “Find and fulfil your destiny.” Nope. Create my destiny. Just be happy. Be wife. Be mama. Be granny. Be housekeeper. Be aunt. Be niece. Be cousin. Be sister. Be me.